Love + Patients = Happiness

 One thing I said I was not going do while doing this blog is degrade anyone else character. Sometimes I might use examples from my life to explain my journey and my connection with the verses. When I think of patients the first thing I think of is relationships. When a relationship is over, depending on what side of the break you were in, it takes a toll on you. But why are you really upset? Some might be upset because 1 Corinthian 13:4-7 states,

"Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoice in the truth; bears all things, endures all things."

I am not going go in debit on that, because that might be saved for another message. But one will start to question, if this is love, did that other person ever love me. I remember thinking after we broke up, they was plenty of times I wanted to leave and did not leave, because of love. And I felt true love was patient, so once it starts to destroy itself, one might feel like a failure that they could not keep it together. Think that is the main thing people feel, they started this journey with someone and it failed. That where all the hurt and frustration comes from. Then when that person finds someone before you do, you start to question that love even more, all the time one invested in the other. It got to the point I had to sit back and think, if I truly love that person, the only thing on my mind should be that they are happy. It might not be with me, but they are happy.

I actually had someone that I was talking to one time, and they did not feel like they were right for me. But that person wanted to see me happy, so they introduced me to someone that they thought was. At first I was upset and just thinking, they just trying to shove me off on someone else, but if you look deeper, they loved me enough to want to see me happy, even if it was not with them. I am kind of getting off track but bare with me, I am going get to the patients part. It might of been too little too late feeling this way, after my actions got to the point we could not even be friends any more, sorry I changed stories but talking bout with my ex, my action got to the point we could no longer be friends. But it dawn on me, she really is happy with this other person, why am I upset. I was upset because I lacked patients. The patients to believe that my happiness would return one day in another form. Take a look at 1 Corinthian 13:8-10,

"Love never fails, But whether there are prophecies, they will fail; whether there are tongues, they will cease; whether there is knowledge, it will vanish away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part. But when that which is perfect has come, then that which is in part will be done away."

Love can be destroyed by the lack of knowledge of what. Look at what the message is really saying. Is God not perfect? So when he is not in a relationship, the relationship is just in parts. Now the reason most people have failed relationship is because one rushes into it. Do not know the person whole background and does not seek the knowledge of their religion views, which has a person loving in parts. Not only does one lack God, they also lack patients.God promises us happiness in our life, we just have to have the patients to obtain it. Hebrews 6:13-18 reads,

"For when God made a promise to Abraham, because he could swear by no one greater, he swore by himself, saying 'surely blessing I will bless you, and multiplying I will multiple you.' Ans so after he had patiently endured he obtained the promise. For men indeed swear by the greater and an oath for confirmation is for them an end of all dispute. Thus God, determining to show more abundantly to the heirs of promise the immutability of his counsel, confirmed it by an oath, that by immutable things, in which it is impossible for God to lie, we might have strong consolation, who have fled for refuged to lay hold of the hope set before us."

Look at this, and see how it says he patiently waited and God kept his promise. It also says that God can not lie. That is the one thing people need to remember is, that God can not lie. Things may not start out the way most people would like but Ecclesiastes 7:8 reads,

"The end of things is better than its beginning; The patient in spirit is better the the proud in spirit."

People who are easily able to give up, usually do it because of a pride issue. That is a person down fall, they put pride of God. Most people will say "God wont put you in a situation you cant handle." But those same people are so quick to give up on that same situation. Do not misunderstand what I am saying. I am not saying happiness lyes with being with another person. One does not have to seek another person to become happy, if that is your only way of happiness, a person falls under lusting for worldly thing. Another person should love another because they first seek God's love first. Some relationships might start with out God, then they bring him into their relationship. I also want to point out, it does not matter when he enter the relationship, as long as he is there, things will work out. Roman 2:7 reads,

"eternal life to those who by patient continuance in doing good seek for glory, honor, and immortality."

If a person does not give up on a situation and continues to be patient in that situation, what does this verse say? Now I am not saying stay in a love less relationship, I want to bring that up too. Because if you go back and see why love fails, if one side is doing good and the other is not, God will separate those two and reward the one that was good. It is not something God wants to do, like us he does not want to see a relationship fail. It is not in the bible that we have suppose to give one another heartbreaks or break up. Once you find that other person, one is suppose to stay with them. But in this day and age, we find ourself rushing to the next thing, and not being patient. Psalm 40:1 reads,

"To the Chief Musician. A Psalm of Davis. I waited patiently for the Lord; And he inclined to me, and heard my cry."

Even though at times it might not seem like it, God is listening to us. He might at times want to see the endurance of our patients. And sometimes waiting for something will have a person cherish it more. Another thing I want to address bout something I said, just because when the relationship was over, they other person found someone before you did, does not mean that you were the bad one. Maybe God has another test in stored for that person. The key thing for happiness is Loving God, enduring you patients for him, and then will come your happiness.